How to support your children starting school

Posted by iChild, August 28, 2019 3:37 PM

By Charlotte Baldwin of IQ Cards

Whether it’s nursery, primary or secondary, or simply moving to a new area, starting school is often a disruptive and emotional time in a child’s life. If your younger one finds the first few days of a new school difficult, they’re not alone.


Help them learn what school is

Teach your child that school is a safe and friendly place to be – and that you wouldn’t be sending them anywhere that they will be in danger! They should understand that they will be meeting lots of new friends and will have loads of chances to play games and have fun. If you’re able to, visit the school with your child before they start in order to help them get used to the new environment. Talk to your child about school and the teachers to help them become comfortable with the subject – they may even become excited about their first day!


Help them make friends

It can be a good idea to organise play dates with other children that will be starting school at the same time – that way they will already know someone when they get to school and will be able to share their experience. It also gives them someone to play with during their first break time!

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Get them used to the uniform

Have your child try their uniform out before the big day, to make sure everything fits properly and so they know what it is and don’t have another surprise in store. If they need to bring their own bag and/or lunch box, let them help you to choose one – this way they can pick a design they like to help ease them in with something comforting.


Teach independence

Encourage your child to do things on their own, such as fastening their shoes or washing their hands – this helps them learn that they don’t have to rely on teachers and can take on challenges themselves. It also sets them up to learn skills on their own in the future.

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Stay positive

Children take lots of emotional cues from their parents. If you act stressed and negative about them starting school, they will reciprocate this. If you are enthusiastic and excited about them starting school, they will begin to see it as something positive.

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Treat them

By giving your child after-school treats, they know that if they are able to make it through the day then they get a reward at the end. It doesn’t need to be anything huge, perhaps just their favourite snack or going to the park, but it helps give them something to look forward to if they aren’t enjoying their time in the classroom.


Be punctual

Make sure you and your child are on time. Dropping off late in the morning or picking up late after school can stress your child out and make them nervous. Also, once you have dropped them off at school, don’t make your leaving seem like a negative thing, such as by asking if they are ok, as this can give them reason to panic about you leaving.

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About The Author

Charlotte Baldwin – Operations Manager at IQ Cards:
IQ Cards is a fundraising company that provides schools and establishments with the necessary tools to fundraise via selling high-quality and unique gifts designed by pupils. As part of the established on-demand print and digital solutions provider The IQ Digital House, IQ Cards ensures that all requirements and products are produced to the highest standards, delivered on time and at great value prices. Several of the IQ cards team are mothers and PTA members themselves appreciating and understanding school protocols extremely well. IQ Cards is an approved supplier for Parentkind. For more information please visit:


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